How sexual revolution led to the feminist revolution

It easy to make a women pregnant. I used to think earlier that God will gift Babies to only people who are capable of nurturing the little humans. I was so wrong, you can make babies even if the sex lasted for 2 mins, even if it felt like you hardly had sex. You can make babies when you do it for the first time or the last time. Babies are everywhere, everyone is making them.

The Silver Lining – The invention of birth control Pill

In the 1960’s the birth control pill was discovered. Now first time in the 5000 years of human history women had a control over their reproductive system. First time in the history of humans – Women could say sex doesnot equal to babies.

The birth control pill also birthed the second Feminist revolution

Now women could go and get jobs. Women can choose first time in the history of humankind not to be dependent on men for financial security. The role of men in society has been diminishing ever since. It is also theorised that what if women could finally even not need the MEN, things like surrogate motherhood could make men dispensable. A male sperm freeze’d for decades could make men totally redundant.

The feminist believe that #allmenaretrash and females can make the world a better place. There are now institutions training young male kids to become more sensitive so that could acquire more feminine characteristics. Feminist believe gender is a social construct and not binary but a spectrum.

A cause for concern?

These are extremely complex issues diving men and women apart and making both of them extremely lonely. What could we as a society do to empower women but stop these gender wars?

The Flow zone

I am sitting in a cafe, the Air-condioner is at just the right temperature, there was some Beatles playlist playing which has been stopped now and there is this silence which feels odd.

Though I can see people from my pheripheral vision, a couple is just leaving the cafe. But I am in a state of flow. I am not distracted. My body is at ease, and I am completely focused on what I am writing. In fact I have been in this “Flow State” for last 2 hours and managed to tick of a few tasks off my list which I have been procrastinating. In this state of mind, I feel no tasks is difficult, I can do anything I want. Programming, music, writing, coding.

The problem is getting into this state is rather difficult. It happens at a certain place and at the certain time. It is when you are not too hungry or not too stuffed. The Ying and Yang is balanced. People who can stay in this state for longer periods can write books, become virtuoso and do all the deep work to become the super-human genius mankind produces once in a while.

If you struggle with your productivity, efficiency and effectiveness of your work. I recommend you try to deep work by getting into the “flow state”.

Flow state can be achieved by

  1. Do what you love even when your house in burning down.
  2. Say fuck you to all your problems and do what you love or love what you need to do.
  3. Find a comfortable place, but don’t be too hungry, or eat too much.
  4. Make sure, you empty your mind of mundane issues by organizing your workflow. So you can focus only on what you need to do.
  5. Flow state can only be achieved alone but one can achieve it during sex or deep intimate close dance.

Getting out of my comfort zone

I am very bothered by this book by Robin Sharma. It is irritating the fuck out of me! This blogpost is an attempt to vent out.

I hate every word of the book, but still I am painfully trying to read the crap Mr. Robin Sharma has written. The reason why I hate the book 5am Club is the following

  1. It is a terrible cliche and badly written peice of shit.
  2. It is forcing me out of my comfort zone.

So I am in this terrible place, where if i read this badly written book, I will be the bigger loser than Mr. Sharma and if the reason is number 2, that I am avoiding to read the book because it challenges me to get out of my comfort zone. As one of the primary purpose i picked up the book was I want to get the fuck out of my comfort zone. I am sick of the comfort zone!

Now I think I can get deeper than Mr. Robin Sharma

What is a comfort zone?

What if I am already living too much out of my comfort zone?

How does Mr. Sharma know that I am about to be eaten up by a blue whale and will dissolve in the whale stomach acid in minutes?

Anyway!

The blog has achieved it’s aim of venting out on Mr Sharma and his silly book. I feel like I should troll him by writing a book called 3:30 am Club!

Any publishers here would like to give me an advance?

Office Politics, Leadership types

When you are working with people, they is this constant need for everyone in the team to establish hierarchy. The fight for the top place is relentless. The person who makes it higher and higher, gets more and more priviledges.

All, the rotten work is done by the lower status people. Also having the right skill for a job isn’t sufficient. One needs to learn to play one person against each other.

The person who usually emerges on the top is the person who manages to become the person who everyone confides in, but that person doesn’t confide in anyone.

This is the end result. Become a person who everyone in the team confides or open up their soft underbelly. As long as this happens you will be the one who can manipulate everyone.

Leadership

There are 2 ways Leadership can be accomplished.

  1. Manipulation
  2. Inspiration

Leadership by manipulation is done by 90% of the people. Leadership by inspiring others is much rare. We all are looking for such inspiring leaders, who will inspire us to give our best work.

Let us see how we can inspire our subordinates rather than use manipulation techniques.

My Talk at the Blockchain Seminar at Smt. P.N.Doshi Women’s College

The Speaker dropped at the last minute out and Tejas asked me if I can speak on Blockchain as he knew I have been researching on Blockchain. I prepared the presentation over night and gave the talk. Blockchain is an amazingly interesting area and I did my best to inspire the students.

Here the talk below